Tips On How To Eradicate Depression

 

Tips On How To Eradicate Depression

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517

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This article is all about beating depression. I am a person who suffered from long bouts of depression, however after deciding to change my whole outlook on life, I now have a much happier, successful and stress-free life. I will explain how I went about achieving this new life.

Keywords:
depression, depressed, depressive, self-esteem, self confidence, confidence, care free, improve confidence, life coach, advice

Article Body:
This article is all about beating depression. I am a person who suffered from long bouts of depression, however after deciding to change my whole outlook on life, I now have a much happier, successful and stress-free life. I will explain how I went about achieving this new life.

As I grew older and especially when I was in my early twenties, I used to always compare my life with other people I knew, for example my friends. It seemed to me that my life was so much more of a struggle than what their's was and that most of these people had so much more going for them and so much more to look forward to than I did.

I was not happy at the hand of cards I had been dealt and would regularly be down in the dumps, feeling sorry for myself. I had a number of issues in my life which had a major impact on my self-confidence and self-esteem, which would also lead me into depression. This issues including a weight problem, a stutter, a bald patch on my head and I am quite short in height compared to the average man.

I was in a regular state of depression and found it very difficult to pull my self out of it. The stress for example of socialising when you have a stutter and trying to gain employment would take a lot out of me. My hair started to turn grey when I was only twenty-one years of age.

I was not content at always being depressed and at the age of twenty-two, I decided to attempt to change my whole life. I had to have a whole new approach and a totally different thought process, in a nutshell I needed to chill out, think in a far more positive way and learn how to de-stress.

This was not going to be easy however it was essential to do. I started to read many self-help type books and books about eradicating depression. I learnt many things such as worrying about a situation makes it even harder, not easier and that in life all you can do is to try your best, therefore whatever the outcome you can feel proud that you gave it your best shot. It is also important to remember that we only live once and that that life could come to an end tomorrow, therefore we should treat every day as if it is the last and to enjoy ourselves.

The main change I made was that I started to think and compare my life to people I was reading about in the newspapers or watching on the television instead of comparing my life to my friends for example. From learning about countries in the third world and reading about certain disasters and terrorist acts, I realised what a fool I had been and that I was actually one of the lucky ones. If and when I start feeling down or depressed, I quickly switch on the news and it soon shakes me out of that temporary depressive state.

 

Marriage Counseling: Marriage is Good for Your Health, Wealth, and Happiness

 

Marriage Counseling:  Marriage is Good for Your Health, Wealth, and Happiness

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Marriage keeps you healthy, US government researchers reported in December.  According to a new study by the Center for Disease Control, married people are less likely to smoke, drink heavily or be physically inactive.  They are less likely than singles, divorcees or widowed adults to be in fair or poor health and are less likely to suffer from headaches or psychological problems.

Keywords:
Relationships, marriage, counseling, family, home,

Article Body:
Marriage keeps you healthy, US government researchers reported in December.  According to a new study by the Center for Disease Control, married people are less likely to smoke, drink heavily or be physically inactive.  They are less likely than singles, divorcees or widowed adults to be in fair or poor health and are less likely to suffer from headaches or psychological problems.

    "It could by the 'Nag Factor,'" according to Barbara Bartlein, author of Why Did I Marry You Anyway? 12.5 Strategies for a Happy Marriage. " Spouses tend to nag each other about health related issues such as smoking, drinking, risky behavior and receiving regular medical care."
Ironically, people have climbed the ladder of success by working long hours and taking on extra projects, often sacrificing time with family.  Now, new research demonstrates that they would actually be healthier, wealthier and happier if they concentrated more on their marriage. There appears to be grave consequences for couples that call it quits too easily that have not been addressed in previous studies.  We have created disposable marriages in a throw away culture with little regard to the personal costs for the individual and family.

     If you are looking for a long and healthy life, marriage may be part of the answer.  Married folks tend to live longer and healthier than their single, divorced or widowed counterparts.  And while my husband would claim that it just feels longer, the statistics demonstrate this is true.

     *Non-marrieds have significantly higher rates of mortality; 50% higher among women and 250% higher among men.

     *For men, staying married boosts the chance of surviving to age 65 from about 2 out of three to almost 9 out of 10.

     *The unmarried are far more likely to die from all causes, including coronary heart disease, stroke, pneumonia, cancer, cirrhosis, automobile accidents, murder, and suicide.

     *Being married improves the mental health for both men and women—there is someone to talk to.  Spouses discuss their worries, dreams and disappointments with their partners, which helps relieve stress and anxiety.

     *Researcher also found that there were positives effects from the "nag factor."  This is; the routine nagging that spouses do to encourage a positive lifestyle and decrease destructive habits such as smoking or drinking to excess.

     A healthy marriage may also be the starting point for a growing net worth.  Not only is divorce very costly in the short run, the long-term effects of not being married dramatically affect how financially secure you become.  Consider:

     *The longer people stay married, the greater their wealth accumulations.

     *At retirement, a typical married couple has accumulated about $410,000 compared to about $167,000 for never married, about $145,000 for divorced and just under $96,000 for the separated.

     *Spouses have better health and life insurance coverage.

     *The married have increased access to pensions and social security.

     *Being married provides "insurance."  In case of death, spouses almost always leave their worldly goods—Social Security and pension benefits to their wives or husbands.  By getting married, spouses create an "annuity value" that is equal to increasing one's wealth by 12-14 percent at age thirty and by 30 percent at age seventy-five compared to staying single.

     *Married people behave more responsibly about money because they have more responsibilities.    By pooling money, labor, and time, married people create far more opportunities for building wealth.

     *There also is a value to IN LAWS—They tend to help a family when needed.  In laws also provide potential access to inheritance.  About 29% of married couples received financial help from in-laws and about a quarter of families with children received financial transfers in the past five years.

     In spite of the jokes and comedy routines, married folks also tend to be happier than their single counterparts.  Married men and women report less depression, less anxiety, and lower levels of other types of psychological distress than do those who are single, divorced, or widowed.

     *Widowed and divorces persons are about three times as likely to commit suicide.

     *Marital status is one of the most important predictors of happiness.  40% of the married said they are very happy with their life in general, compared to just under a quarter of those who were single or who were cohabiting.

     The commitment to make marriage a priority will have a tremendous impact on your life.  The success prescription for health, wealth and happiness:  Work as hard on your marriage as you do on your career.

 

Marriage Counseling: Use the Waiter Rule to Evaluate a Date or Partner

 

Marriage Counseling:  Use the Waiter Rule to Evaluate a Date or Partner

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800

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You can learn valuable information about your relationship by using the "waiter rule" to evaluate your date or partner.

Keywords:
Dating, relationships, marriage, counseling,

Article Body:
Working my way through college, I waited tables and tended bar.  Though I have several degrees with an emphasis on human behavior and psychology, I swear I learned more about people from slinging hash and pouring drinks.  I can remember accidentally spilling a few drops of an ice cream drink on a lady's skirt and being totally humiliated as she screamed at me in the restaurant.  I also recall a very kind man who didn't get upset even though there were repeated problems with his order.

                 Rudeness to service staff reveals information about a person's character reported in a recent article in USA Today.  Office Depot CEO Steve Odland, who also waited tables as a teenager, states, "You can tell a lot about a person by the way he or she treats a waiter."  It seems that he is not the only CEO to discover the "Waiter Rule."

 The Waiter Rule has been identified by many executives, including Raytheon CEO Bill Swanson.  There is one rule that Swanson says never fails:  "A person who is nice to you but rude to the waiter, or to others, is not a nice person."  Swanson first identified this phenomenon when he was eating with a man who became irate to a waiter because the restaurant did not stock a particular wine.

 "Watch out for people who have a situational value system, who can turn the charm on and off depending on the status of the person they are interacting with," Swanson writes.  "Be especially wary of those who are rude to people perceived to be in subordinate roles."

          The Waiter Rule has also been noticed on the dating scene.  A November survey of
2,500 by It's Just Lunch, a dating service for professionals, found that being rude to waiters ranks No. 1 as the worst in dining etiquette.  Some waiters report that women will actually pull them aside to see how much their dates tipped to obtain insight into his use of money and other tendencies.

 The Waiter Rule can also apply to how people treat those in other service roles like bellmen, hotel maids, clerks and secretaries according to USA Today.  This can be more indicative of someone's character than all the charm you experience in the relationship.

 Using the Waiter Rule can be an accurate predictor of character because it isn't easily learned or unlearned.  It is more likely a person's true colors and speaks to how they were raised and their value system.  How a potential partner treats a waiter may be how they will treat you. 

 Some behaviors that indicate a problem:

               *Playing the power card.  Comments like "I could buy this place," or "Do you know who I am?" reveal more about the diner's character than his wealth or power.  It is unlikely that he will be compassionate to you if he is consumed with power and control.

               *Having a short fuse.  This person may have an ego that is out of control.  It is a way of saying that she is better than the wait staff; she is special.  These people tend not to be collaborative in relationships.

               *Demanding about every detail.  You may be looking at a micro-manager who consistently sends the message that your efforts are not good enough.  He may be critical and demeaning rather than supportive and encouraging.

               *Speaking in a condescending manner.  The message here is clear; she thinks she is better than those in subordinate positions.  She may have a need to feel important by putting others down.

               *Making a public scene.  If he embarrasses you in the restaurant, he will embarrass you at home.  At best he has poor manners, at worst, his judgment is faulty.  Either way, he will not make a good partner.

               *Easily turning on and off the charm.  These folks have situational values, which may also indicate situational ethics.  People with firm character adhere to their value system regardless of the circumstances.  Avoid these people like the plague.

               *Constantly looking around the room.  Rather than being focused on the table conversation, he is distracted and not engaged.  He may be looking to see who else is there or whether he is being noticed.  Regardless, he will have the same behavior with you in other settings.

               *Poor tipper.  She may justify leaving a poor tip with various complaints about the service or the waiter.  Anyone who has ever worked in a service industry knows that it is very hard work with a low base pay.  If the service is adequate, a 15% tip is customary.  A twenty percent or more gratitude is standard for exceptional service. 

 Try using the Waiter Rule whether you are evaluating a partner in a relationship.    You may save yourself a lot of future problems by dining out.